When sand slips through your fingers.
There I was, trying my best to be as perfect as possible……
I remember it vividly…. Quite some years back I was invited to talk to a women group of more than a hundred female entrepreneurs. Even to me this was pretty daunting. Imagine, being introduced as a presentation expert! That meant that my presentation would have to be no less than perfect. The stakes were high!
So, there I was preparing the presentation that needed to be no less than perfect. After, sculpting my story and message, it was time to make it my own and practice out loud.
Once, I felt I nailed it, I decided to record myself to see how the story would come across to the audience.
I was horrified.
It looked contrived, not like me at all, a bit stiff, as if I was playing a role of some kind.
The content, however, was fine.
So, what was amiss?
By aiming for the presentation to be as perfect as possible, I had written out the whole story and memorized it word by word.
This meant that all my energy went to getting the exact words across while presenting. It meant I went into my head (out of my body) out of the here and now so to speak. No longer connected.
It looked as if I first had to gather the information outside of me, instead of saying it in my own words and thereby pouring right out of me and embodying my presentation. It felt one dimensional and did not come across as convincing at all.
I grabbed onto my text too tightly (in my mind), not daring to let go of it, because I was afraid it would be less than perfect if I would….
Like clenching onto sand too tightly in your hands, afraid of losing it. Only to figure out that it is slipping through your fingers anyhow simply because of the tight gripping…
Are you also a perfectionist and do you want to learn how to stay close to yourself and feel more comfortable when you present? And how to let go in a good way? So, that you hold the sand comfortable and relaxed in your hand instead of too tightly?
Then apply for my open training.
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